Do: Find someone who can make one of those awesomely ridiculous bow bouquets. This is truly an art, my friends. There is definitely a special technique that goes into making one, but it is also something that can be learned while doing with sort of a trial and error mentality. If no one at your shower knows how to make one, just nominate someone to give it a try, because after all that will make it more unique and more memorable! Having something for the rehearsal to practice holding while you make your grand entrance can even calm any nerves that you may have since it will give you something to fiddle with.
Do: Enjoy your time in the spot light while opening gifts in front of everyone. Your guests spent time, effort and money to attend your shower and buy you the perfect present, so be sure to take the time to show off your new treasure to everyone else in attendance. If being in the spot light and having everyone’s eyes on you while you open awesome gifts isn’t you, don’t worry! You can suggest to your host or your MOH to make an announcement before the wrapping paper tearing begins, thanking everyone for coming and just simply stating that you will begin opening presents now and for those that can stay, please do, but for those who need to scoot out, it is a-ok! There will be some people who could not fathom missing the opportunity to scout out what you got, but it also might give a few people the opportunity to sneak out and make the crowd a little smaller and less intimidating.
Don’t: Forget to thank your host! This is a must and something that can be easily overlooked with all the other details of planning your wedding. Your gesture can be as simple as a hand written note, flowers, or fun monogrammed paper cocktail napkins that can be used at a future event! Something else to consider is having your fiancé show up at the end of the shower to bring the host flowers. Having your fiancé show up is a great way for him to also thank the guests for showering you, his beautiful soon- to-be bride with all the wonderful gifts for your new life together.
Do: Speak up if the planning seems to be getting too out of hand or you don’t think it represents you. This event is about you after all! When your host volunteers to give the shower, don’t be afraid to tell her about one or two details that you have always wanted of like a fun donut bar brunch or a dressed up dessert party. You don’t want to control the planning too much since you are already planning the big day. But having someone like your MOH or mom, who knows you like the back of your hand, keep tabs on some of the shower details can help ensure that it is everything that you ever dreamed.
Most importantly.. throughout the entire bridal shower and wedding planning, always remember that the main focus is on you and your fiancé’s wants, desires, likes and dislikes. Just remember to enjoy the process and all aspects that go into it. As always though, it is also important to be considerate, inclusive and gracious. Just think, in a few short weeks or months, you will be married to your best friend!
Happy showers! XO,
Emily
