Now that the post-engagement glow has faded a bit …it’s go time. Money starts flying out of your sweaty palms faster than you can say “guestlist.” You hire (make her cookies) third cousin Becky to address your save the dates. 3am is seen as you debate the vintage lace over the modern. It’s my humble guess that a little stress can creep in, no doubt. Hours, days, and (most likely) a few tears went into your precious wedding day. Planning a wedding is an extremely emotional process for most of us.
Reminds me of my college graduation day. So much hard work and then one afternoon, you skip up a few stairs and strut across a stage. Your piece of paper is received and bam. Real life hits and it hits hard and fast.
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The guests have gone and you grab the man that gave you his last name. You escape to your much-anticipated champagne and lovemaking adventure. Somewhere in between your second pina colada and a lavender bubble bath, you feel empty. With so much riding on your special day, once it’s completed, there can be a sense of letdown.
Barefoot in the sand, my husband and I decided to say yes to forever. As we were closing in on our last week, I totally freaked out.
Tears welled up as I began to breakdown. I had nothing left to plan..no more bachelorette parties..no more meetings with my planner. Just like that, I was completely useless. (I have been known to be a fairly dramatic person, btw.)
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It’s just you and him, forever and it feels kind of quiet. This is the biggest change you will most likely ever encounter. Overnight, your life shifts from quite a bit of chaos, the biggest party of your life, to a new simplicity. You and your hubby, that’s it. We now laugh about my “honeymoon freak-out” and think it’s kinda silly, but I have heard from several girls that they also had a little “freak out.”
So…breathe. It could happen to you and maybe it already has. Cry if you need to. Your freak out might hit you on your honeymoon, like mine did, or a few months down the line. This is normal, I promise. You are not the only one.
Lean into it. Communicate what you are feeling and be real. This is one of the biggest life changes you will experience and it’s a HUGE deal.
Give yourself time to change. To adjust to your new life that doesn’t include planning your wedding, but is focused on an incredible marriage!
-Jeniece
P.S. On a lighter note, here is a link to the recipe for my favorite Pina Colada! Cheers!
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