1. Black or white: Kosher or not?
Good news, everyone…Your fave little black dress is appropriate for a wedding. Many people pick their outfit with the misconception that anything black would exude gloom (rather than joy), but don’t worry — no one will think your dark attire is better suited for a funeral than a wedding. Although black might not be the best choice for a mid-afternoon ceremony in the spring, black is perfectly fine for any evening wedding.
Now, on the topic of wearing white: Believe it or not, etiquette books say yes to guests wearing white, as long as the fabric and cut of the dress aren’t bridal at all. But our stand is a little bit different. Okay, a lot: We say no.
If you do show up in white, you’re not technically doing anything wrong, but people might talk (almost everyone who hasn’t read those etiquette books thinks this is wrong) and you’ll be known as “the girl who wore white at so-and-so’s wedding.” It’s just not worth it. Let the big day be about the guest of honor — the bride — and save your white dress for a special occasion that doesn’t involve vows.
Still, if you can handle the scrutiny (and a potentially angry bride), you’re not violating any rules of etiquette should you choose to wear your favorite white number to another bride’s big day. What do you think? Would you wear white to someone else’s wedding?
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2. You’ll cry tears of joy at the proposal, when you slip on the perfect wedding dress, and when you walk down the aisle.
Every bride reacts to major planning milestones differently. When I got engaged, I was so caught off-guard that I asked “Are you serious?” about 10 times, even though the man I love more than anything in the world was kneeling before me in the sand, clearly asking to spend the rest of his life with me. Not exactly the response my fiancé had expected (eventually, I snapped out of it and said “yes”). Don’t beat yourself up if these happy moments unfold differently than the way you expected — and that applies to the groom, too.
Your wedding should be about celebration and joy, not about a bunch of made-up “shoulds.”
Managing our expectations is important for a number of reasons, the main one being our own sense of happiness. The less disappointment we face, the happier we are. The second most important reason is that our expectations tend to create demands, requests or orders on other people, which causes stress in relationships. The more we face disappointment, the more unhappy, unmotivated and stressed we become. So instead of being sad and giving up, there is a better solution: becoming aware of and modifying your expectations. This is your unique wedding day. This will not be the same as the couple you saw online who got married at your venue, or another wedding on a blog you are in love with. This is the wedding of two amazing, unique, and different people, and it will be the BEST day because it’s yours. You go ahead and experience it, being unlike anything you could
expect.
3. The weather will be perfect on my wedding day.
By far the biggest disappointment we see with our brides is when the weather doesn’t work out. You must always have a backup plan if your wedding is to take place outside. If you don’t think you can handle losing your plan A, plan to have your wedding inside. When you look back on your day, will you want to remember being bummed about the weather, or by the amazing dance party you had despite it all?!
4. I don’t need to hire a professional. My mom/dad/aunt/uncle/cousin can do that for me. (a.k.a. “Friendor” = Hiring a friend to be a vendor)
That may work for some things, (maybe), but anything that is truly important to you should be left to professionals.
There’s a lot of warnings out there about using “friendors” for your wedding, mostly because you know how things can go when money exchanges hands between friends. Great photos take more than an expensive camera; great food for lots of people takes careful planning and a lot of work to get it done. Save your friends and family the stress and let them enjoy the wedding day.
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5. I should be getting a major off-day discount.
Vendors should be willing to offer me great deals regardless of my wedding date (consider brides getting married on Fridays and Sundays, for example). Yes, the economy is still a little rough, but wedding vendors are getting enough work so that they don’t have to give away the store, especially during prime booking times. There is nothing wrong with asking for a deal, but don’t expect 50 percent off.
Sources:
Wedding Guests: 5 Wedding Guest Myths — Busted – Wedding Planning – Attending Wedding
10 Major Wedding Planning Myths Debunked
